The Problem With Vulnerability

“[Running a business] is so hard. I don’t know many people who will understand, much less that I can trust.” 

Sobs muffled on the other end of a phone call with a dear friend—pent-up tears that revealed one too many sleepless nights stepping out boldly in business but held back by the hesitation to seek help. To the world, my friend is a successful entrepreneur, and yet so much lurks beneath the surface.

How many of us have been in this position? Whether struggling at work, stressing out at school, or disappointing others in relationship, our tendency is to clam up and just trudge forward with a happy emoji face. American culture defines strength by self-sufficiency, and the lie remains that independence is the key to survival.

American culture defines strength by self-sufficiency, and the lie remains that independence is the key to survival. 

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Be the Change

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Image created by French artist Jean Jullien in light of the attacks on Paris.

Yesterday we slept to the news that over 100 innocent people died in Paris at the hands of terrorists. Today I woke up to similar news in Kenya. When will the madness end? When will it stop? People cried, prayed, scrambled for answers, and pointed fingers, positing that “‘likes’, shares, and posts won’t help; action will.”

On the contrary, I believe posting about these tragedies shows solidarity, that we will not be silenced by fear. I believe that action is up to the individual. This is a post about how I intend to take action—to change the world by changing my world.

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Treat Yo Self To Some Self-Love

Well hello there, blogosphere. Haven’t written here in… wow, 7 months? Time flies when you’re having fun… honestly, time just flies.

Was doing my regular nighttime perusal of the interwebs—my usual scheme to avoid going to bed (some things never change)—when I came across this OpEd by Zara Barrie of Elite Daily, “She Knows Her Worth: Why We’re Afraid Of A Woman Who Praises Herself“.

It’s wonderful for a woman to be smart, to be beautiful, to be hyper-intellectual. She is embraced for these qualities, so long as she’s not aware of it.

-Zara Barrie, Elite Daily

The cool thing about being in advertising is seeing ads which either embrace or attack social constructs. As women power (#flawless) is on the rise, so, too, are videos of gender stereotypes being dragged to the grave (Always and Under Armour come to mind).

Yes, they’re ultra motivating. But why are women always shown fighting to overcome?

What about the woman who’s fierce and already knows it? 

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Cata7yst Confession: I’m A Failure

fail·ure [feyl-yer] noun: an act or instance of failing or proving unsuccessful; lack of success: “His effort ended in failure.”

-Dictionary.com

If you search the term “succeed”, Google will reward you with 46.6 million results. Look up “fail”, however, and you’re hit with a whopping 184 million results. That’s four times the amount.

Does this surprise you? It shouldn’t. Our society seems so turned on by failure — a quick glance at a magazine stand could tell you that. Heck, look at your life up to this moment and ask yourself: am I where I expected to be at this age?

If you’re anything like me, Failure’s like that plush armchair in the corner of your house. Once you’ve made it your home, not even Carnival could get you out.

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The Secret Killer Among Us

I’ve always thought life should be like the movies. In high school, I imagined my own Heath Ledger (RIP) would dare to express his love for me. The more exaggerated the gesture, the better.

Swoon.

As a working girl in the creative field, I aimed to be Andy, the protagonist in Devil Wears Prada. That fashion montage? Killer.

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Part 1: Dining at Tiffany’s with Michael Jordan & Beyoncé’s Butt

When you know your purpose and you pursue it wholeheartedly, everything comes easily. That’s how you’ll know you’re on the right path.

–No one ever

I always thought the best Creatives… athletes… performers, whatever had a jammed power button embedded in their talent source. Consistently stimulated. Constantly churning out something great. 110% on. As if Michelangelo sculpted David one weekend, and then went on to paint the Sistine Chapel that Monday. Or Beyoncé woke up with the derrière that graced the Grammy’s (okay maybe she did, but the rest of us have to suffer through lunges and squats). 

Meanwhile, I beat myself up for stretches at a time where mini-sparks of brilliance come, but instead of reaching out to grasp their wings, I’d lie face down as they flew away.

Failure. It’s inevitable. Whether you’re a newbie or the Michael Jordan of your industry, everybody fails. And that’s something I’m just learning to accept as a-okay. Continue reading “Part 1: Dining at Tiffany’s with Michael Jordan & Beyoncé’s Butt”

This Basket’s Not Big Enough For All These Eggs

It is important that our returns to our happiness pool is from several different and diverse activities. At no point in time should we pin our happiness on the outcome of just one single event.

–“Diversifying Happiness” by Street Smarts

Truth be told I am a no holds barred, balls to the wall type. When I do something, it’s all or nothing. This unfortunately stops me from trying new things… for fear of not doing it “right”.

But nothing is perfect and, at the risk of sounding cliché, it’s the journey—not the result—that speaks louder. Continue reading “This Basket’s Not Big Enough For All These Eggs”